Upon introspection...

This weekend I attended an Akhand Paath Ceremony. I have been a little disillusioned lately with life in general and last Friday I was down in the ditches. It has been starting since the past week. The work schedule is practically nothing. All the projects I was working on have been closed or I have been asked to wind up.

There have been lot of meeting and presentations by top notch vendors in the industry, lot of free food and free stuff. But something isn’t feeling right to me.. My supervisor, is ignoring me… I mean.. I was sent away on a tour, when the Big Boss was coming over.. could it be because they did not want my voice to be heard?? Could there be any other reasons?...

welcome to the world of professionalism!.. ha ha.. Okay.

time is valuable. i just want to feel useful..for the time spent.. I also need to get something done. Its been one month and I feel I am simply squandering time resource here.. just to walk up in the office each day and do nothing.. drink coffee.. sit at the pc.. browse on it.. look up some system.. seems like a royal waste to me… attend meetings… feel dumb and steupid… ppl if they need my help in something… being refused / assigned some office boy jobs… feeling even more stupid..

Things need to change!.. this is not how I will take it. ... Okay, I think its time to make some noise. Which I am going to make.. and soon.

To top it all my fee waivers have been revoked!.. misery amplification… no matter how much I try to save up.. I have nothing left in the end.. there was this very interesting thought.. that somhow stuck in my head, the fundamental that our guru’s coached us… the fundamental of tith . ... Do you set aside a 10^th portion of your income each month for human causes.. seva.. donation?? …

When I first started getting some finances of my own.. I did have this generous thought.. but those time my tith money used to be about 10 rs… these days. My tith money.. if I am truly honest.. is 60$ a week.. but my expenses, total to about 50$ a week… so high, I reason..that I am barely able to make ends meet.. I have my reasons and sound justifications for not tithing.. I don’t want my money to go into the personal pocket of some oily rich krah prasaad eating jathedaar! Or some political propagandist!!!

I want my khoon paseene ki kamai to help feed the needy and the hungry… in the langar, or clothe some one.. that is where I would be wiling to donate. Yesterday, at this Akandpaath, I was telling you at the begining… there was this “Sant Babaji”… they were from some famous place n name.. which really dosen’t matter to me.. their talk and all was mighty impressive, the bottom line was sales.. at a point he felt like a salesman to me…a religious marketeer... pls pardon my blasphemeous musings.. but that was the bottom line.. they had a jatha.. they had built gurudawara’s .. now they were set on building schools.. babaji is aged and have been touring the US since the last 32 yrs… and .. they wanted the donations.. to build schools… hey, I am not criticizing.. or anything.. we can look at this.. if we want to get something done..its a good just cause.. and we don’t have all the financial resources.. we need a banker right?.. so we sell our ideas to others.. those who are impressed with that thought can be persuaded to back us?.. it can be in any thing right.. think of college.. a few ppl have this idea that.. they are not in a mood to attend the class.. Reason could vary from boredom.. to the teacher being not a good communicator.. or the subject being tedious.. or mood na hona.. and what do we do.. we talk to the fellow classmates. And try to rub on the similar thoughts.. ki chaad yaar.. bahut laa layeeaan classaan ajj nahi laani.. teacher is also requested sometimes… ki pls… ajj rehn do sir/ maam… ajj mood nahi ae.. yaar.. we go maas cut.. bunk.. he he…. Fun fun!.. by the way.. while we were at college.. we also discussed the possibilities of starting our own enterprise... joint ownership company.. which never came to anything but ideal discussions at the time we were searching for jobs.. at the end of final year.. but.. may be now that all of us are more experienced and knowledgeable... may be i will rope up the fellows to know how they feel about that...

So everyone has been a salesman at somepoint or the other… we sell ideas… somewhere, some ideas reap profits and become exemplary ... ideas rule the world!... would you care to share any of ur ideas?.. and may be we can discuss how we can make it profitable?... its an idea too.. ;-)

I was surprised… at the idea of medical tourism.. what the heck is that?? Was my first query.. my informer said.. its 1 million $ business now.. with a potential of rising to a billion… I just mean to stress… is the ideas.. and the concept… and the application.. that is the name of the game.. if you have an idea write it down.. sometimes our ideas could be as silly and dumb.. but there is always someone who has the capacity and the skill to get it cashed.. it may not be us..but someone we know… seek those folks to get them encashed, and ofcourse its hard work.. but then.. it could be your baby project… one more thing… why do we have the set stereotype thinging…. Get somethinking done.. out of the box.. each one of us some brilliant thoughts and ideas.. but we lack the drive and spirit to get it into action… it feels like its gonna take too much effort…

I know there have been 3 ideas jumping in this writing of mine.. but. I don’t know… one of these days I might go back to India.. cuz that is the place where there is lot of potential.. from my limited understanding…the ppl from the south don’t settle down in this country.. they come here get education.. go back and start their own businesses.. why can’t we… ? hey its not that I want to go back or anything.. to me.. my personal choice is family first… where ever they are or they want to be.. but that does not prevent me from being objective… and rational… why are the Punjabi folks so set up in the stereotypes… why not change ourselves and our thinking.. we are farmers.. have you met farmers in the US.. .they are smart educated MBA’s they are businessmen.. here… why are .. you folks selling all ther assets at home to settle in a country that can never be your own… cuz heart of hearts.. you know.. you are an Indian and a punjabi… be mobile.. be entrepreneurial… don’t slave off your life at someone else’s beck and call.. have you ever put in that many hours at work while you were in India.. here you make do with less than 3 hours of sleep!.. to get the work done… oh.. we blame on the system… power failure.. and all that … but I will say one thing… “Where there is a will, There is a way”…. Criticism is always easy… koi effort nahi lagta…but just think for a while, instead of slaving your whole life in another country, where even if you die.. they want you to make arrangements for your funeral before you die..… it was pathetic watching this advertisement from a funeral home.. A while back there was a news of this couple dying of pneumonia.. cuz they were old and not able to pay for the power bill and they had no heating in their house for a week... the kids live some place away... the old coupIe have no one to get them grossaries.. I been on the buses.. I seen folks at walmart.. its really pathetic.. these folks are hardworking, very independent folks.. but they are aged... in their 80's... I felt pity,.. our elders are so well cared for... but then again i also have witnessed.. grandpa's and grand ma's being assigned the roles of aayah's of the kids.. baby sitters... or care takers of such big mansions in India... being fed at the mercy of the servants.. and having their throats split... ludhiana had so many cases..to boast off.... why cant we adopt all the good things from this sytem.. be better ourselves.. and reject the not so good ones.. why do we want to copy the fads.. and waste so much time on stuff.. I will agree i am in a wierd mood... I am being revolutionary... I am no one to pass judgement.. but I will not do that to my parents or my elders... havent they done enough.. reared us taken care of us.. made food for us... catered to our whims and wishes... its a shame... and pathetic...but getting parents as caretakers for the kids is very pathetic... pls just think... what ever goes forth comes back... so I would like to make everyone aware.. that we do have to pay all our loans and debts in this life time...so be cautiously aware of what we are subjecting to the others... and also be aware.. that there is a responsibility to our parents... don't get too stuck in superficial monetary worlds.. yeh sab to moh maaya ka janjaal hai..that is so temporary and seasonal.. as fashion..fads… have you ever noticed, .. the impression of scerenity and grace in a makeup free face… have you ever witnessed the noor on the face of a saint.. I can tell you I have… and I have seen some so called “babe”.. sangat coming from all over for their word.. and the babe di beebi.. running an oriflamme di franchise… what a disillusion!.. these occourances.. make me lol!.. and disgust me thoroughly.. and .. well.. I am not against religion or anything… I am just more spiritual than religious.. it just so happens that I am familiar to my religion from birth.. just that.. and since it’s the most recent version of all the religions.. it’s the most updated version to follow as well.. its relatively bug free.. unless we try to make it so.. it’s the most flexible by far and out.

Main v kal di katha di tarah “got carried away ho gayee”.. waada ghaate bull chukk maaf karni.. sarbat de kaaraj raas karne.. saare

Bolo “Sat Nam!”

Waise kal .. ek bahut wadeeya gall suni.. keha gaya ki kadi.. thori seva v parwaan ho jaandi ae.. te kadi bahuti di v sunvaaee nahi hundee”.. I was able to relate it to the efforts and results.. sometimes.. I get credits for something I didn’t slave on.. and get no credit for somethings. That I have been working deligently on..for months.. .. and I can think of so many other similies as well…

.. Anyways.. everything in this world tends to attain a balance… all the reactions will proceed till equilibrium, ice cream mix has to be balanced for a good product.. all the flavor and inclusions included… the emotions needs to be balanced.. nature’s imbalances causes misery.. so the operative word for this writing should be balance…

End of a dragging saga....confusion and formal words

“Thank you for your time”. … 

I am sorry, I forgot to thank so many ppl for their time and when .. some one said that… I felt.. like… what is it supposed to mean?.. in what sense.. is it a sincere compliment or an indication in a negative sense…end of story..I am in a confusion.. which is not really a confusion… as I am not really sure but I am more inclined to think on the negative side..

American language is so polite… words in this language will be feeding you to the dogs but the same words will have many meanings and could be interpreted in a plethora of versions.. … that poor confusion prone me ..has become confused…  have to spend some time revolving the words in my head .. just in order to understand….and explore the different possibilities that could have been conveyed.. ha ha… what the other ppl might have casually said/ or not said for that matter .. Should not be allowed to become …blown out of proportions so as to become the cause of a splitting headache… 

Moral of the story.. I prefer plain talk!, complicated words and formality – make me uncomfortable… as it takes so much time for the meanings to get across loud and clear.

Personal action Plan:

I should avoid formal words and formal ppl .. as it has been concluded that formality of any kind gives me headache as it leads me to thinking about things that have no useful insights for me….i start thinking… like what they said , why they said.. and how it can be interpreted. … but no one except myself to confirm if what I might be thinking is true or not.. and all the blab la.. ha ha..  C’mon.. I have more important things in my life going that will not be so futile mental exercises as this.. right… 

Avoidance is no cure.. you say…. but it will help me keep my sanity till the time I find a cure… ha ha..

Stop thinking on silly issues… look at the big picture..  and I am sure I am not so comprehendingly challenged that I don’t understand the meanings…  its just that.. I might be resisting the reality..  but what ever it is … it is..  and a smart person is the one who can evaluate the situations critically…  every day in the job offers new learning and pdp, personal skills are something that would be good for me to focus on… 

I am going for a cookie company visit.. Thursday… so a full day will be gone.. I am doing fine.. but I have to go and seek out my own learnings.. and emerge as a better individual… and as a professional too.  The more experience one can get.. the lesser chances of them flunking on a silly game of words…. I also had a first hand albeit a rather silly experience of trying to make a fool of someone.. to me it was like wasting someone’s time… and more importantly our own time… but it was their game.. I was an observer… but it was not a real issue…

Btw.. Mahi Ve from Fakhir has started playing on my jukebox… so I have started enjoying this song.. I really like it….

.. so sab sari gaali logon ki harkatein aur baatein.. bhool jao.. aur apne kaam mein dhayan do.. keep focused on your ultimate goals… cuz.. they are not far now.. and not unachievable too… do your best and leave the rest.. J

Always smile away the worries … there are better things in store for me and you :-)

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YOU are a human magnet and you are constantly attracting to you people whose characters harmonize with your own.

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NO MAN HAS A CHANCE TO ENJOY PERMANENT SUCCESS UNTIL HE BEGINS TO LOOK IN A MIRROR FOR THE REAL CAUSE OF ALL HIS MISTAKES.

- Napoleon Hill.

Why work hard.......??

Hard work never killed anyone… Effort never goes waste.. sooner or later you will see the results.. may be in a different form.. and at that time you might think that u just got lucky...but its like the saying .. as you sow so shall u reap... but if you don't sow anything what will u reap???

... my suggestion will be.. just try to put in ur best in whatever you do.. and try not to think too much of the outcomes/results... enjoy the journey.. cuz success comes to those who work selflessly, try to enjoy what they do..and give in the best they can.. half hearted attempts never let you go far in life... don't think of the results.. just gear up and work hard.. Concentrate on just giving it all you have got and once that is done.. find other things to work on.. try not to attach urself to the outcome.. a selfless detachment along with focused effort will get you anywhere you wish to.... don’t program yourself negatively.. and set up limits on yourself and your capabilities..  Never give up…always keep trying working on your goals little by little one step at a time…

anything is possible.. but to turn possibilities into realities we have to

-       Plan
-       Prepare
-       Organize
-       Work diligently on the goals
-       Maintain consistency in the efforts
-       But most important of it all ---- have a clear objectives
-       one can have a primary objective and a secondary objective.. rest can be minor fillers.
-       Don’t loose yourself in distractions…

always remember, there is no one in the whole world that can stop you but yourself... so don't ever be dis -heartened and give up...always remember… when the going gets tough, the tough gets going!!!..

Best wishes always. :-)

~ A Winner never Quits and a Quitter never Wins ~

The daily dose... [on motivating oneself]

How do I work? I know there is lot of work to be done.. but somehow the clock keeps ticking.. and I am not able to accomplish any thing much..

I agree with the 20/80 rule which says that the 80% of your productive work come from the 20% of your time..

Here is a way… so what will be 20% of 24hrs ? Ans= 4.8 hours…

So now.. just focus on getting the most done in these 4 hrs 48 minutes.. I will go easy and give you 48 minutes off…

So now just focus on getting the most done in the 4 hours… good..

48 minutes …. To organize n prepare n plan…

28 minutes = sit in a quiet place and try to focus your being .. mentally try to evaluate the reasons of what you are and why you are doing what you are doing .. and where is it going to lead….and what is the current situation.. [if its from scratch.. even better.. cuz..you have a white paper] In a nut shell.. try to motivate yourself and build up concentration for better clarity of the goals..

10 minutes = write on paper what all you want to do today…: then prioritize tasks!.. have a timer on at all times..

10 minutes is the preptime.. gather your material.. and evaluate the plan of action and accordingly proceed further of reevaluate your plan.

Now start to time yourself.. and you are ready to go.. and ... you are ready to focus on the work at hand for then next 4 hours.

Studies have shown.. that maintain a 50 minute attention spans .. then take a 10 minute break… so basically .. you have to work for only 3 hours 20 minutes only.. in a day..

Hows that??

Try it… and let me know

You will have to do the whole exercise in one sitting with minimum distractions.. no email or phone calls.. everything can wait and be rescheduled. For sometime later in the rest of the day… no?

Keep up the practice.. do this for 1 week you will start to feel the difference… provided.. you are able to maintain 3hr20 minutes of undivided attention to the task at hand!... not even thoughts of other things..or what you could be doing instead..it has to be just you and your work..

Keep Working!

Make it a part of your daily dose.. :-)